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Chub Chart, the Second

At his four month checkup, Micah was declared officially colossal: 18 lb, 5 oz and 27 inches tall. That’s the 96th and 97th percentiles, respectively, so clearly our second born is following the grand tradition of hugenormousnosity set by his brother, who was 18 lb, 12 oz at his own four-monther. It’s a beautiful thing to squish abundant baby pudge.

I tried adding Micah’s stats to the previous Chub Chart, but it was kind of boring and hard to read, so this year, Hello Persings is proud to present a new and improved Chub Chart the Second! Unfortunately, Baby Oren did not make the cut, partly because his records are trapped behind large furniture but molso (that’s Liyam for “mostly also”) because he has simply been out-chubbed by his children. Sorry, honey.



Toddlerhood, a Snapshot

Lately, Liyam has been climbing into bed with us in the middle of the night. It’s irritating to have your sleep interrupted by a pushy octopus with no control over its limbs. He says loudly, “Please move? I need some space,” as if it were the middle of a noontime conversation. But then he snuggles in close and rubs my arm gently with his soft soft hand, and who wouldn’t love that for at least five minutes?

Definitely Our Son

Having broken through the child locks on the kitchen cabinet, Liyam decided to spend the morning building structures out of baking goods. Could there be any better combination of his two parents?


Take Five

Liyam is a busy, busy guy. He is always on the move, throwing balls, picking up dirt, moving furniture, pointing at things, pulling books off the shelf, swooning over Dada. Recently, as a fun exercise (and an excuse to take a breather, let’s be honest), I sat and mapped out Liyam’s route around the living room for five minutes. It’s hard to explain the extent of his movement, and we’re so used to it now that it’s amazing to just sit and watch him go and realize how much energy is whirling about us all the time. Whew. I’m exhausted just looking at this.


Big Day

Yesterday, Liyam turned eight months old and his Great Grand Uppah celebrated his 94th(!) birthday. We’ve heard from tons of family members that there’s a resemblance between the two (something in the mouth expressions, we think), and indeed, both guys are amazing, active, handsome, sweet and brilliant. Two peas in a pod, really. I’m thrilled that they’ve gotten to meet each other, as (this blows my mind) Uppah is nearly a century older than the Pudgecicle. Here’s a quick peak at the worlds they were born into:


What do I need for a baby?

I’ve already had a few pregnant friends ask me which items are essential to have ready for a newborn, so I thought it might be helpful for future preggos (and for our own future reference) to post a handy little list here on the blog. This is my personal opinion of the basic, could-not-live-without items for our first few months with baby Liyam in Northern California (i.e., maybe not as useful for a super skinny, non-wiggly, formula-fed child in Newfoundland), so don’t get upset if you’re a huge fan of diaper wipes warmers. I’m going to leave out most clothing items, and I’m also going to skip cribs and bedding-type things because they are so dependent on the couple, the child, the size of your bed, and the size of your apartment. Ready? Let’s go!


1. Car seat – Required, obvi.

2. Stroller – If it doesn’t come with one, get a clip-in car seat adapter thingamabob so you can use the stroller all the way through from wee babe to lanky toddler.

3. Baby carrier – The Moby Wrap is really nice for newborns, but we eventually transitioned to the Ergo, for ease of getting on…not counting that devilish back clip that requires dislocating your shoulders (wtf). Get the infant insert for the Ergo if you want to use it with a new baby. Save the $20 it costs for the organic “teething pads” that fit over the straps and go buy things that actually help your baby. Like hamburgers and milkshakes for Mom. Pre-baby, I thought those forward-facing baby carriers—the ones from which babies dangle like alien sea creatures—were kind of creepy, but now I actually think it might have been awesome to have one because Liyam loves to look around and because he also really likes to bang his head against our collarbones when he’s riding in the Ergo.

4. Bouncy seat – I don’t know what we would have done without our bouncy seat. It is quite possibly the most important thing on this list. For bouncing baby to sleep and for those times when you just need to put him somewhere so you can cook/do work/make out/watch television with a beer in your hand, a bouncy chair is a must-have. We have and adore the Baby Bjorn Babysitter Balance because it’s streamlined and portable and, even though you have to physically bounce it, doesn’t look like a nursery threw up in your living room.

5. Changing pad and (2) covers – Due to our small space, we wanted something that would sit on top of the bureau instead of a whole separate diaper changing cart/station. Lest his royal bum be forced to rest on regular fabrics, we bought two of these Carters Super Soft changing pad covers, and when they arrived, Oren said something like, “And why exactly does our poop-covered child need to have his bottom wiped in luxury?” And also something like, “But, hey, good for him!” Our cousins have a cover with a super cute monkey on the top, which, apparently, their son cannot stop hugging and cuddling, making diaper changes a wee bit challenging. But how adorable is that? Worth it.

6 Diapers and wipes… and a place to toss them – I have but two pieces of advice. 1.) Don’t feel guilty if you really, really badly wanted to use cloth diapers but couldn’t for convenience/financial/laundrical reasons. I’m still working on this one. 2.) As far as I can tell, our 13-gallon plain-o trash can from Tarjay does the job just as well as the Diaper Dekkor Genie Plus with Special Smell Abatement Cartridges. And it was $19. OK, maybe the solid food smells are just now starting to be an issue, but I shall stand my ground.

7. Diaper bag/portable changing pad – We have the Skip Hop Pronto, which is awesome for those times when you don’t want to carry around a whole diaper bag. But, we also got a free diaper bag from the hospital, including a changing pad, which holds everything and we use all the time. Official “diaper bags” are way too expensive, so I suggest finding a regular bag that’s big enough and just sticking a portable changing pad in it. Plus, that way, you can choose a design that both parents will feel OK carrying around.

8. Prefold diapers – Cotton prefolds make the best burp cloths of all time. A six-pack was perfect for us.

9. Swaddle blankets – We use the Aden + Anais blankets for ev-er-y-thing. They’re amazing and adorable, large, warm but breathable (especially important for little ones that will only sleep with blankets over their faces), and get softer with every washing. Honestly, everything that Aden + Anais makes is lovely and high quality.

10. Velcro swaddles – Liyam was like a little Houdini, and the sleep sacks with velcro were the only thing that would keep his arms in at night. Not all kiddos need the straight-jacket treatment, so maybe you wait to buy these, but boy, did they come in handy!

11. Basic onesies and sleep sacks – It is true: People love to buy baby clothes. Luckily, this means that you don’t have to purchase very many items yourself. However, I recommend having a set of all-purpose, good-for layering, I-don’t-care-if-these-get-ruined, easy for diaper changes onesies. The Disney Cuddly Bodysuits are the best, softest, cheapest that I’ve found. I wish they made them in huge-baby size. And maybe also in adult size. Although we swaddled Liyam at night for a while, we eventually transitioned to sleep sacks, which are wonderful because he can’t kick them off! Halo even makes one with velcro (see above)—so two birds, one sleep sack.

12. Infant/toddler tub – Whichever floats your boat. And your baby. The hooded baby towels are also pretty wonderful, but not totally necessary. For baby soap, we use Weleda Baby. It is all-natural, gentle and smells nice, too.

13. Nursing bra – You won’t really know your size until after the baby is born, but it’s nice to have just one comfortable nursing bra ready to go, especially for sleeping. I had one that was a full size (band and cup) above my pregnancy size, and that was great for when my milk came in. You’ll probably want to wait until your late 3rd trimester to guess on the sizing.

14. Nursing pads – If you are anything like me, you will probably spend a few days covered in milk anyway, but these are life (and clothing) savers. I use the disposable Lansinoh pads and they’re amazing. They hold ounces and ounces!

15. Baby nail scissors – Baby nails grow SO fast—like tiny talons—and these are really easy to use. As far as other health and body care stuff, we got a bulb syringe and digital thermometer from the hospital and haven’t yet needed either. It’s good to have some infant acetaminophen around, and they recommend daily vitamin D drops for exclusively breastfed babies (I mostly remember to give this to Liyam). I use Angel Baby Bottom Balm for diaper rash and either light lotion or Vaseline for dry skin.

16. Washer and dryer! I never thought there would be so much laundry.

OTHER THINGS YOU MIGHT LIKE TO HAVE: Nursing cover, sound machine (I recommend the Cloud B Gentle Giraffe), baby monitor (didn’t need one in our one-bedroom apartment), baby towels, picnic blanket

THINGS YOU CAN WAIT ON: Breast pump and bottles, nipple cream (you might not need it, and we got a sample from the hospital anyway), baby sunscreen, pacifiers, bibs and other feeding supplies, teething toys, more advanced jumping chairs or activity stations, rocking chair

Chub Chart

We took baby in for his four-month checkup the other day, and not only did he charm the pants off the nurse (not literally… actually, baby was the one who had to remove his pants), but he weighed in at off-the-charts fat. Sorry, not fat, heavy. Nearly 19 pounds of beautiful, squishy, sausage-rolled heaviness. Tzviah recently sent us Oren’s baby weight chart, so we made a graph to see how the two stack up against each other:It’s not a competition or anything, but so far, Liyam’s in the lead.

Bathing with Baby

From the Bathing with Your Baby info sheet we received in birthing class:

“When your baby starts to tire, you can get out of the tub. Signs that he might be ready to end the bath include eye rubbing, hiccupping, sneezing, loss of interest in eye contact or a worried facial expression.”

Or, if you’re Liyam, something like this…

We’ll make a water baby of him yet!

Our Birth Plan

We’ve just put the finishing touches on our birth plan, or birth vision, if you prefer, so I’m posting it here in case some of you might find it interesting (or even helpful, if you ever find yourself trying to write one) and because it seems like a good idea to document our intentions going into this first birth.

Doula Michelle says that Kaiser is quite receptive to and respectful of these, so it’s a really good tool to have in the hospital. We’re also lucky that Kaiser by default tends toward many of the natural methods that we prefer (e.g., varied pushing postions, episiotomies only rarely, lots of skin-to-skin time with baby, etc.), so we didn’t have to list every natural birthing procedure under the sun, but we did want to make sure to get across all of the other preferences that are important to us.

In my searches through the birthing class binder and on the Interwebs, it was very difficult to find a jumping-off birth plan that met all of our conditions: brief and easy to digest (for busy hospital staff), personal (but not hippy), and positive (duh). So, we used about a dozen different sources for the actual topics and then put our own spin on the language and artwork. I feel really good about it. Of course, if there are any complications, the whole thing pretty much goes out the window, but hey, flexibility is the name of the game with this childbirth thing.

Here it is, for your viewing pleasure. Feel free to ask any questions (it’s really fascinating stuff!), but please remember, no judgy judgies allowed.